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In this blog post, I will focus on the hopeful fact that when you have been online dating for a while you have asked someone out or maybe you are the one being asked out on a date.
This post will focus on the so important first date.
Why First Dates Are The Most Crucial One
If you are new to dating or have been in a relationship, going on a first date with someone is less important than going on a second date with the same person. Nothing could be further from the truth, and the first date is the most important one since this is where you will talk face-to-face and get to know each other a bit better than you did before.
For those who have been in a relationship before, I recommend reading “When to date again after a breakup.”
I would suggest that you talk with the person you intend to ask out on a date for at least a week (7 days) before you pop the question unless you instantly feel a strong connection. Then you might do it after 3-4 days.
This is only true if you live in the same city or are close to the same major city.
A Good Place For The First Date
So now you have been asking someone out and that person has agreed to meet you in real life. First of all: Congratulations!
Have you decided who should pick up who or if you should meet at the public place you decided?
I strongly recommend that you go to the same place on your own and not pick up or be picked up by your date.
The first date should always be at a public place.
If you do not live close to each other, if you are on an international dating site, you need to approach things a bit different.
Then you must have more interest in the person you will date than if you live close to you since it will be more time-consuming when travelling as well as more expensive. You also need to do some research on where to go on a good date (if it is you that will travel and the one asking someone out).
Otherwise, it is not a problem.
Great places for first dates are:
- The Theatre/Opera House
- The Cinema
- A Café
- A Bar
- The Church
- A Restaurant
If you and your date share a common interest, try to find something directly or indirectly related. For instance, if you like the same sport, go on a game together.
For more ideas, please read the article “Best First Date Ideas” for further insights.
However, sports can be a bit tricky if you do not cheer on the same team, especially if they are rivals. This one you really need to know.
Otherwise, it might be awkward for you.
The same thing is true with all the other places listed.
If you are unsure, you should either ask or go to a site where there is less chance of failing. If she does not like fancy restaurants, you might consider a different restaurant, but avoid fast food joints!
They are a big no-no on first dates.
A thing that we men should avoid is to talk too much about ourselves and our interests. Let the woman be the queen of the first date. You should be a perfect gentleman, holding doors, pulling out her chair and so on.
Basically, The things you need to do is to show you from the nicest perspective possible.
Something else you should avoid: Do not trash your work, your employer, or your colleagues. This is a recommendation for both genders.
If you need to know what to discuss, read this article about conversation starters.
Let’s face it, ladies: We do not wish to hear about what a tramp that colleague is or how prude that colleague is, and no gossip, please!
That is a true deal-breaker, at least for me!
She expects you to be like that, and she won’t kiss you or even think about it if you do not behave like a gentleman.
For more insights, you can read this article about how to avoid being nervous on dates.
That article will help you stop with self-sabotaging behaviors that ruin any chances you will have with a woman by overcoming your nervousness and insecurities.
So listen to what she is saying, which is important: Always agree with her and remind yourself that she is the queen and should be treated accordingly and be the center of your undivided attention during the entire date.
If you ever would like to have the slightest chance to get on a second date you should always behave like a gentleman. I can of course not guarantee that it will work for you, I only share my own experience here.
These are my best first date advice that I can give you and that I myself has personally used.
Next blog post
My next blog post will be published on Wednesday the 10th of June 2015.
It will be another review of another dating product.
See you then,
Rickard
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