Christian Dating Advice: What Does It Mean To Date As A Christian Today?

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Introduction

In this blog post, I will introduce the new blog series, “Christian Dating Advice.”

This series will run once a month and is aimed at providing Christians, like myself, with honest, straightforward, and real-life examples of what it means to date as a Christian in a world that is increasingly turning away from religion towards a more self-centred, humanistic, and individualist approach.

 

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I will write about what it means to date the Christian way, with the Bible in one hand and the other hand free for a man or a woman to share their life with.

Read more below…

 

First Of All: Does God Want Us To Date?

Since you, like me, are a Christian, the first and foremost important question to ask is: Does God want us to date?

The most correct, honest answer that I can give you is: Yes and no. I know that this might not have been the answer you were hoping to find, but let me explain below what I mean.

 

Here Are Some Yeses:

* Yes, because God actually says so!

God wants you to date, as He Himself gives examples of courtships throughout the only written source that we can entirely rely on as His Word: the Bible. I will only give you one example:

 

The patriarch Jacob was actually “coached” by his mother Rebecca to pay a visit to his uncle Laban and work for him.

 

Now, as we all know he had to work for 7 years and was tricked by his uncle to marry the elderly Leah at first, before he after an additional 7 years of work were finally allowed to marry his beloved Rachel (Read especially Gen 29:18 where it’s clearly stated that Jacob loved Rachel for no apparent reason!). That is true love! He had to work for 14 years before he could marry the love of his life!

 

However, there are many other examples that I could give you since the Bible isn’t just about God’s love for us, the love (and hatred) between humans, or how God constantly fights for humanity; it is also a lot about human relationships.

 

*Yes, because God wants us to find love.

Since God loves us and God is love, according to the Gospel as well as the Letters of John, He wants us to find love so that we might reflect His love for us in the love for that particular person that we are attracted to, and also to our families, our congregations, our churches, and our country.

 

* Yes, because that is how God made us.

“It is not good that the man should be alone.” (Gen. 2:18)

We are not made by God to be singles for our entire lives; we are made for someone else. That is how we should show our love and affection, by making our love an example for others to follow.

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Here Are Some No’s:

* No, we should not date like everybody else.

When we read the letters written by the Apostle Paul, it is clear that he constantly warns us against being like “the people of this world.” So when we are dating, we should not behave like everybody else. Remember the cornerstones of dating: Humour, Respect, Honesty, and Trust.

 

* No, dating for only sex is not an option.

Christians should not join so-called sex dating websites since these sites are promoting a lifestyle that is not a Christian lifestyle, where people are just looking for someone to spend the night with. Once again, we can trust Paul, who writes about people who are living like harlots are evil-doers and wrong-doers that will not share the joy of resurrection in the coming world.

 

* No, dating a person who does not share your values.

Christian dating is more than just sharing faith; it is also about sharing values. Remember that Jesus is our Saviour, and it is our obligation to tell the world about what he has done for us! Having someone who shares your faith is excellent and strengthens you in your beliefs. This is also what Paul writes and what the Saviour himself demands of us!

 

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Concluding Remarks

As we can see after having a quick look at the Bible (both the Old and the New Testament of course) God wants us to be active and date to find love.

When we have done that, God demands that we be faithful to them and that we show His love by being loyal to our spouses.

 

Next blog post

My next blog post will be published on September 5th, 2015.

It will be about yet another new series of posts that will be published periodically on this blog, called Seasonal Dating.

 

See you then,
Rickard

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