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Today, I will discuss dating with anxiety.
I know that many singles are suffering in silence.
So what can you do if you suffer from anxiety, or even worse a combination of anxiety and depression or if the person you are dating suffers from anxiety?
This is exactly what my article will cover.
I will begin by telling you a story that is based on my own experience and then I will share some tips with you.
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Now, I will discuss my own experiences with dating someone with anxiety.
When Dating a Girl with Anxiety Is Good
I have dated many girls and a few of them have suffered from anxiety.
Most of them were anxious to be judged either by their friends and family or by my friends and family.
Even though I ensured them that my family wouldn’t judge them, they had some doubts about it and started to ask me questions about why I didn’t dated others who were more like me.
The truth was that I found them more attractive.
However, they did have low self-esteem and a low value of worthiness which they took out on me and blamed me for.
If this describe you, I recommend you to increase your self-esteem.
I would, however, never recommend you to dating a girl with low self-esteem just to boost your own ego or confidence.
If the roles would been reversed, I wouldn’t recommend her to do it either.
The only time when dating a girl with anxiety is good is when you can help her by being a positive force in her life.
I have always been supportive and positive to everyone I have dated before.
This is, of course, what I would recommend anyone to do and also to never forget to especially mention the things that she is anxious about in a positive way.
Now, this is just general recommendations on what I would do, based solely on my own experience.
I will now go more into details about more serious cases of anxiety.
What Dating a Girl with Anxiety Is Like
So, what is dating a girl with anxiety like?
First and foremost, you must understand that anxiety is normal.
Secondly, it is also causing her to have doubts and asks questions like why doesn’t he text me back or what if he likes someone better than me?
Doubt is the reason, the cause is anxiety.
As I tried to explain in the story I was sharing with you above, it is her insecurities about herself that you or someone else might not like her as she is that causes her to feel insecure in the first place.
Insecurity causes doubt and doubt causes anxiety.
It is absolutely normal to feel a bit insecure, especially at the beginning of a relationship.
This is the healthy part of anxiety.
However, you must understand that anxiety is a real problem and not something made up or just an idea that someone put in her mind.
There is also an unhealthy part of anxiety, where it becomes an illness.
It happens when anxiety causes the girl you are dating to live her life to the full potential and function normally in her everyday life.
She probably hopes that her anxiety won’t affect her relationship with you.
My only recommendation to you is to read a lot of other blogs on this subject and also try to develop an understanding.
If you never suffered from the crippling emotions yourself, try to develop at least an intellectual understanding of what she is going through and give her emotional support.
This will cause her to love you, even more, I promise.
But how can you identify when she suffers from anxiety that is more than the normal anxiety that both you and she might experience from time to time?
Here are the signs to look for:
- She is angry and irritated. She gets annoyed quickly and without any reasonable cause.
- She becomes controlling and asking you a lot of questions
- She wants everything to be perfect
- She becomes overly critical of you and your behaviours.
- She avoids straight answers and shows clear signs of passive-aggressive behaviour.
- She has trouble to focus on things
- She is being very distractive
If you experience this, try to talk to her and convince her to see a professional therapist for treatment.
Why Dating with Anxiety Is Hard
Dating someone with anxiety is hard, I won’t lie to you.
The person might criticize you, insult you, and even threat you and if he or she does this, make sure that you make the person understand that you don’t accept this kind of behaviour.
It is also hard to be dating someone with anxiety because he or she might give you the third degree, which is a result of his or her own insecurity.
The hardest thing about dating someone with anxiety is:
Just as with other mental illnesses, you never know when it will become worse and flare up or what might be the cause to it.
As a couple, you need to face it and cope with it together.
If you stick with this person, you will develop a lot of effective coping strategies that will work for this person.
However, it does take time to develop these strategies.
The two of you need to allow the necessary time to pass and you might also seek professional help to develop effective coping strategies.
Try to be supportive and explain what happens to your date.
If you are suffering from anxiety yourself, my best advice is to be open about your illness and know that it is nothing to be ashamed of and if someone have problems with it, that person is not right for you.
Now to a question that might have been going through your head a couple of times, as you read this article: Can dating itself cause anxiety?
Can Dating Cause Anxiety?
The short answer is: Yes and no.
Yes, because, as I told you before, it is a normal reaction to worry about the person and to ask yourself a lot of questions at the beginning of a new relationship.
No, because, dating should never cause you discomfort.
If it does, even if you don’t know why I recommend that you trust your gut feeling and try to find out what causes your anxiousness.
It might be that this person isn’t right for you.
However, you might have been struck with bad luck and started dating a narcissist, which I covered on this blog before.
When you know what causes you the feelings of discomfort, act.
Do not hesitate and do not start to
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Next Article
My next article will be published on the 30th of March 2019.
It will discuss when a man establishes an emotional connection with you.
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