Dating In Real Life: Filling The Gap Between The First And Second Date

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Who Are You Missing In Your Life?

Who Are You Missing In Your Life?

In this blog post, I will write about one of the things I always do myself and often tell my clients, both male and female alike, to do.

It fills the gap between the first and the second date (as well as the consecutive ones) with something useful to do.

If you have asked your date out and has agreed to go on a second date, I want to say: Congratulations!

You deserve it! This is huge! It would help if you celebrated it by doing a little dancing or something else.

There is, however, one more thing I would ask you to do. Find out what it is below…

What You Need To Do

I always think that evaluating a date is good. I learned this lesson the hard way because I wasn’t evaluating how things actually went when I began dating.

After a while, I taught myself a unique skill and that were also when I began to have more second and consecutive dates myself.

So, how should you do it?

You can do it by writing down, either by hand on a piece of paper, on a notebook, on a computer, on a tablet or your smartphone. I don’t know what you prefer to use since I don’t know you.

Use something to write down according to this small list:

Notes For My First Date With (His/Her Name)
First Impression:What were my first impression of him/her?
Answer: 
How did the conversation go along?
A number between 1-5 where 5 is excellent and 1 is very bad.
What do I like about my date?What did I not like about my date?
  
Has my impression of him/her changed?Why/Why not?
  
What did I do good on this date?What could I make better?
  
Finish:How did the goodbye part go?
 

Would I consider having a second date?

Why/Why not?

When you have answered these questions, you will have a good idea of how you feel about that person right now. It does not need to be exactly like this questionnaire above. It’s just a suggestion.

You do not need to fill it in if you don’t want to. I had helped some clients writing down things and then many times we had returned to this evaluation before the person was either going on a second date with the same person or a new first date with someone else.

 

The part that the person was not satisfied with the first time we’re actually improved, or so the clients normally feel just by writing some notes to themselves what they shouldn’t do!

 

Don’t Be Discouraged.

If things now have been cleared and you’ve decided not to go on a second date. Then you should either mail or call the person and tell them this.

Do it in a nice manner like “I thought a lot about our date last night and I felt that we didn’t really connect on a deeper level than I think a couple should have to build on for the future. I hope you will find love, and I wish you all the best in the future. Take care!”

If the person then tries to ask why your little questionnaire might come in handy. Sometimes people do care for an explanation, especially if they felt otherwise.

If both of you felt that you should go on a second date, call and ask that person out.

Next blog post

My next blog post will be published on Wednesday the 29th of July 2015.

It will be discussing the second date.

See you then,
Rickard

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