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In this article, I share a couple of red flags for women, which are mostly focused on dating in real life, and not so much online dating.
For that reason, I hope that you will enjoy these red flags, though.
If you want the red flags for women online dating, I recommend that you catch up on these eight red flags first.
In this article, I will cover five things in particular:
- Dating red flags for women
- Dating red flags in a man
- Dating red flags to look for in a man
- Dating red flags checklist in a man
- Red flags in a relationship with a man
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Dating Red Flags for Woman
What are the red flags you need to be aware of as a woman?
One of the BIGGEST issues that is a real red flag for a woman is whether the man can apologize, or if he’s too “cool” for that.
As a man myself, let me be clear here: A real man does know when he should apologise to you and are mindful that he does not hurt your feelings or emotions.
He does offer his sincere apology to you when he realises that he overstepped your boundaries for what is acceptable and not.
If he lacks this ability, it is a red flag.
A simple but honest and heartfelt: “I’m sorry if I hurt your feelings. I apologise for hurting you. It was not my intention.” goes a long way, right?
Below, I will share a couple of other dating red flags as well.
Dating Red Flags in a Man
Other dating red flags in a man that you need to be aware of are:
- He lacks the necessary communication skills.
- The man you are dating is very mindful of his phone and social media.
- He is disrespectful and condescending against you.
- His humour is a little too biting and too sarcastic to be fun.
- He wants to change you.
- He takes himself too seriously.
- You catch him lying, and he continues to lie to you.
- There is only one person in the relationship, and it is him.
- He doesn’t care about your emotions.
- Whenever you want to bring up something serious, he jokes about it.
If he behaves like a complete jerk, that is another red flag that you should be on the look out for, since that behavior will probably increase over time.
Just as I did for men, I will discuss each and every one by itself.
Dating Red Flag In A Man #1: He Lacks Necessary Communication Skills
Admittedly, we men aren’t always as talkative and easy to communicate with as women wished sometimes.
That is something I can admit to myself.
However, in the beginning, everything moves smoothly, but after a while, you will suffer from the unavoidable communication breakdown.
It is natural when you run out of things to talk about.
However, if he is skillful he has learned how to deal with it, and re-engage himself in the communication, talking about different things.
As long as he is not bullying you, or outright mean to you, there is still hope for the relationship, unless he begins to threaten you with a breakup or talks passive-aggressive to you.
Here’s an example that he might say to you if he talks like:
“John broke up with his girlfriend because she was so hard on him. It might happen to you, too, unless you put your act together.”
If he does speak to you in that tone, it is a red flag.
Dating Red Flags To Look For In A Man #2: He Always Looks At His Phone
If the man you are dating is always looking at your phone it is a red flag.
Men who are always looking on their phone typically falls into either one of two categories:
- He is a social media junkie, who can’t put away his phone and have a normal conversation between two human beings.
- He is talking to other women while he is on a date with you.
Trust me, you don’t want a relationship with either one of these guys.
The first one will spend so much time on social media, that it becomes like a drug.
The second category of men will cheat on you and be unfaithful to you.
Read my article about how you can identify a cheater here.
Dating Red Flag #3: He Is Disrespectful And Condescending Against You
No one deserves to be someone who continually is criticising you, always complaining, and are still negative around you.
Remember that if he is a Negative Nemo, he will never treat you respectful.
It might become even worse when you become more serious, and he might also patronise you.
A relationship where one person is giving the other person critique and only shares negative comments like You are fat. You should consider dieting. is unhealthy.
I am always an advocate for positive, healthy relationships that brings you up, but never of a relationship that wears you down.
Remember that negativity will only bring more negativity into your life.
Dating Red Flag In A Man #4: His Humour Is Too Biting And Too Much Sarcastic To Be Sound
A little bit of sarcasm every now and then, or a joke that is biting can be a sign of a guy with a lot of self-distance to himself.
However, it is another thing if he is always like that.
Then it is a red flag that things might not be well with him, or a red flag that he is just like I describe in number 3.
Don’t get me wrong here.
Sharing humour, being a bit silly, and laugh at it is the hallmark of a sound relationship.
However, if he makes jokes about things that are sensitive to you, it stops being funny and becomes rude since it is never fun to make jokes about someone’s weight, education, or intellect.
It doesn’t matter if it is you or your friends, since it is still criticizing you directly or indirectly, and it is NOT fun at all.
People who do that are insecure of themselves.
If you notice that he begins to be like that after a while, it is a red flag.
Dating Red Flags to Look For in a Man #5: He Wants To Change You
If he always complaints and want to change you, while he thinks of himself as perfect, it is a certain red flag.
Remember this: A man who wants to change you from the get go, is not worthy of you or to be in a relationship with you, since it is a sign of disrespect.
Red Flags in a Man #6: He Takes Himself Too Seriously
Most people, men and women alike, take themself too seriously.
If he thinks that he is the only person who knows anything about everything, it can be a potential red flag.
A man who can laugh about himself, and has a bit of self-distance is rare.
However, he is more light-hearted and can laugh at his own expense, but still be serious every now and then.
That is a man who needs a woman just like you in his life.
A man who takes himself too seriously; on the other hand, will never be able to do it since he is to busy figuring out the next step.
Dating Red Flags In A Man #7: You Catch Him Lying, and He Continues To Do It When You Caught Him Red-Handed
Another red flag is a person who lies, and does it without any problems.
A small lie might be something you forgive, however, if he continues to do it, and you catch him red-handed, and he continues to lie to you, that is a definite red flag.
Especially if he claims that you remember things the wrong way.
That is a clear sign that something is wrong and that you might be dating a sociopath, a psychopath, or even a narcissist.
Here are a few characteristics of psychopaths and sociopaths.
Dating Red Flags To Look For In A Man #8: There Is Only One Person In The Relationship, And It Is NOT You
It takes two to tango, as the old saying goes, or at least two to do the dating dance together.
If he is not emotionally connected, and committed to you, it is a red flag.
Not all men are marriage material, since some are just in a relationship with a woman because it feels right for his own selfish needs.
A man who treats your relationship like that, is not a keeper.
He will become avoidant, and as soon as he thinks there is something better, he will leave you and probably put all the blame on you.
It might actually be the best choice he has ever made.
Not only will you be free to find a better man who treats you the right way, but he will regret it later on when he discovers that it was not as great as he thought it would be.
However, if you think he is worth fighting for, there is one thing you need to do.
It is something that I discussed in this article.
Red Flag In A Man #9: He Does Not Care About Your Emotions
A man who does not care about your emotions does not care about other people’s feelings in general.
He is definitely not someone who deserves your company.
My advice to you is to dump him as quickly as possible, and move on because you are better off without him.
Below, I will discuss it a little bit more.
Dating Red Flag In A Man #10: Whenever You Want To Bring Up Something Serious, He Starts Joking About It
If a man never can discuss more serious things, he is not serious about you or your relationship, and that is a red flag.
It also shows you that he is insecure of himself.
He does not want to talk about serious things, because he is not sure whether he wants it or not.
If he decides to pull away for a while, give him some space.
By allowing him to think about it, he might just have thought of it like an innocent flirt that became something he never expected.
If you give him some time, he will get back to you when he is ready.
Dating Red Flags To Look For In A Man
When I wrote the section above, I started to think about one friend of mine, as well as a song.
The song is originally in Swedish, so I have made a translation of it.
If the guy fits the refrain of that song, all dating red flags should be waived in your mind.
I think you will get the point.
It is NOT easy to be humble for a person who is as flawless as me.
I can not wait to get home to my mirror. I just get more beautiful every passing day.
And all the ladies want me – I am a darn good looking guy. It is not easy to be humble. But I try to do my best.
“Det är inte lätt att vara ödmjuk” by Mats Rådberg ©1983 by Marianne – A Warner Music Group Company. English translation by Rickard Österholm. Source: Letssingit.com.
A guy who is just like the refrain that I quoted above, should be making all red flags waiving in your mind.
He has clearly to much ego.
Another red flag can be that he always says that you are right, whenever he wants to avoid to discuss a topic that you bring up.
Not sure of what I mean?
Think about how Ash treated Avery in TLC’s 90-day fiancé: Before the 90 days, and you understand what I mean.
Dating Red Flags Checklist in a Man
As you probably realized, the ten things I have shared are all red flags in a man in their own right.
I have compiled them, and a few other things together in a checklist:
- He can not stop telling you how perfect you are
- He always claims that you are right
- He is criticizing you, and nothing you do is sufficient to him
- He has an ego or a relationship with it where you always seem to be the fifth wheel at least
- He always jokes about everything, even things that are sensitive to you, and continues even if you ask him to stop
- He always wants to be intimate with you
- He wants you to support him so that he can quit his “horrible” work
- He always refers to you as “stupid”, “idiot”, “moron”, “fatty”, and other not-so-affection words
- He hates his parents
- He can never apologize to you, even when he is wrong
- He can not joke about himself
As you clearly can see on my checklist above, there are a lot of red flags for women that you need to look out for in a man.
Red Flags in a Relationship with a Man
I really hope that you enjoyed my complete list of the red flags in a man.
Even if my list could be longer, for sure, it will still give you an overview, as a woman on which red flags in a relationship with a man that you need to be watching for, and know.
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