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In this blog post, I will continue the discussion of the motivation behind your dating.
Last week I discussed how’s the why’s and the when’s of dating if you’ll remember this summary:
How – means where you are dating and what it is good for, what will you benefit from your dating experience?
Why – means that there is a reason for you to behave in this manner, to go out with strangers because you are hoping for something. What kind of relationship is it that you are hoping for?
When – means that there is a special time for this. When is it? Weekdays? Nights? Weekends?
Now the time has come to elaborate…
How Are You Dating?
The first question I would like to ask you below is, of course, this one. What is it that you want to achieve with dating, and what are your goals with your dating?
A good strategy when you’re dating is to have several goals on the way to the bigger goal, as many as possible actually. I will help you break it down by letting yourself ask several questions like:
What is your primary goal for this date? Is it to have fun, or is it something serious?
If it’s just for fun, how far are you willing to go? Will there be a second or third date?
If you want to make a serious offer, how much should you reveal about yourself? How will you achieve a second and maybe third date with this person?
It might seem farfetched, but you really should ask these questions before you’re going on a date with someone. To make your own mind clear about where you want to go with this person.
Why Are You Dating?
In two previous posts, I’ve asked this question. The answer that I found is that men and women want different things when they’re dating. There are two suggestions that I like to give you why men and women have different approaches:
1. Men have more time to “play” or “fool around” than women.
The simple reason is that men don’t tend to have a “biological clock” limiting the years when we can have children.
This is absolutely one of the aspects of dating in real life that we shouldn’t avoid.
2. Humans are social beings.
In fact, women are more social than men. I would like to argue.
Why?
Since scientific research has shown that boys are more likely to identify themselves as “I” and without any knowledge of how we interact with other humans when we are young, at the same time, girls are fostered into a social context where they identify themselves about other girls and other human beings.
If we have these two facts and then apply them to dating, it also answers why.
Because: Women have less time than men to look around and find the right one than men. For this reason, women are doing a lot of tests because they want to know if you are a suitable mate and worth spending time on.
Because: Women are socialized into a context of social beings more than men, and for this reason, they also start to date when they are very young. They basically want to find their role in society quicker. I have written about this in a previous post, that you already might have read on this blog.
When Are You Dating?
There is a correlation between when you are dating and how you are dating.
I mean by this statement: When you are dating, it will have an immediate effect on how you are dating. You will date but probably just when you have the time for it, which probably means during the weekends and holidays and less during weekdays.
Although lunch dates can be quite a good way to begin dating someone, especially if both of you lack the time of dating during night and weekends, most people won’t find time for dating during an already busy workday with a heavy workload that modern society seems to imply on all of us.
If you don’t think you have time to date, then make time for it!
The worst part of a heavy workload at work is that you might never find the time to date, so for this reason, you really should make a vow to yourself that you will find time to date.
For this reason, joining dating sites like ChristianDatingInternational.com is the best option.
Why? Because you can date whenever you have the time for it. Even if it’s just 5 minutes a day before you’ll be going to bed, it will still be worth it.
So if you don’t have the time for dating yet, take some time!
These are the best advice about dating that I can give you right now!
Next blog post
My next blog post will be published on Saturday the 14th of November 2015.
It will be a new review written by me.
See you then,
Rickard
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