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Introduction
In this blog post, I will list the three most common mistakes that men and women make on first dates, which are based in part on my own experience.
Start by thinking about what you can think of, and then continue to read them below.
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Top 3 Mistakes That Most Singles Make on A First Date
I have listed all three mistakes in three categories: Reason, Best Practice, and Risk.
Although they are pretty self-explanatory, I would like to explain them briefly:
Reason – why you should avoid this practice.
Best Practice – the best way, according to my knowledge, of how to avoid this mistake
Risk – what you’re risking if you make this mistake
According to my own experience, the top 3 mistakes people make on first dates are:
1. Not Showing Up On Time
In most Western societies, this is a big “no-no” on a first date.
If you know you won’t be able to make it to the appointed time, don’t hesitate to call or text your date.
Reason: If a person knows that you are late for a reason, they won’t be annoyed at you when you’re showing up a bit late.
Best Practice: The best way to avoid this is to arrive about half an hour before the scheduled meeting time at the establishment you’ve chosen. Of course, if your date is going to pick you up, then it won’t be a problem for you.
Risk: If you don’t contact your date and let them know you’re a bit late, they might think you’ve lost interest and leave.
2. Bring A Chaperone to Your Date
Although it was highly recommended in the FAQ section of our dating site, you should at least not introduce that person to your date, whether it is a parent or a friend who agrees to accompany you on a first date.
Reason: You want to portray yourself as independent and not dependent on your friends or parents. After all, if you are going to have a relationship with this person, someone else won’t accompany you the entire time for the rest of your life.
Best Practice: Have your chaperone sit a couple of tables away from you and your date, but still be able to keep an eye on the table where you and your date will be seated. If your first date is in a cinema, the best practice is to sit a couple of rows behind. Don’t let the person reveal themselves to your date if it’s not necessary for safety reasons, and refrain from introducing them to your friends (this applies to both of you).
Risk: If your chaperone is too obvious, your date might think, “This person has no self-confidence and no opinion of his-/her own. If we were to have a relationship, it wouldn’t be two in that relationship but at least three”.
3. The Awkwardness Of Silence
Being silent on a date is never a good thing. So how should you avoid it?
Reason: If you are silent, your date might think that you’ve lost interest in him or her. It is of the utmost importance that you avoid this.
Best Practice: Reread the profile and note the types of hobbies your date has. Prepare other topics as well, but keep them as neutral as possible. You shouldn’t ask your date about how many kids they want or what kind of house they’re picturing themselves in, and avoid questions like: “Where do you see us in 5 or 10 years from now?” It’s way too serious for a first date.
Risk: You are risking intimidating your date by being silent. No one likes someone who talks but doesn’t listen. You might be perceived as rude or simply as someone who has lost interest in your date or is bored with the topics you’re discussing.
The list is quite long, but I have decided to focus on the three most common mistakes people make on a first date, as including the entire list would be too lengthy for this blog.
Summary & Final Thoughts
It would be best if you avoided many more things, but these are some common mistakes I’ve listed above. I do hope you find this helpful.
Avoiding your chaperone from giving themselves away, avoiding silence on your first date, and not showing up on time are three of the most common mistakes singles make.
If you show other people some decency, you will hopefully be a bit more successful on your next first date.
Comments are always welcome.
Of course, avoidance of these mistakes is no guarantee of “instant success” on a first date. Many factors contribute to our decision about whether a person is “right” or “wrong” for us.
We are humans, we are sinners, and we make mistakes.
This is, unfortunately, also how we learn things as human beings.
The phrase ‘practice makes perfect’ is indeed very true when it comes to dating, especially on the first date.
Next blog post
My next blog post will be published on March 12, 2016.
It will discuss the reason why most people are looking for someone similar to themselves.
See you then,
Rickard
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