Dating In Real Life: Why People Are Looking For Someone Like Themselves

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Introduction

In this blog post, I will discuss that most singles are looking for someone similar to them.

This is a fact that most dating sites recognise but never tells their members. I don’t know why since it is a known fact, but I know that all research on both small and big dating sites alike tells the same story: You are looking for someone that reminds you of yourself.

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Why Are People Looking For Someone Like Themselves?

If People Ask You Who You Are What Do You Say?

Why do we look for someone that resembles ourselves?

I think that we, as human beings, want to find someone who agrees with our ethics, morals, and values.  Faith is, of course, the pivot that websites like xpdating.com are built around.

There are other dating sites built around other things, whether it be dating for single parents, animal lovers, a certain sport or only people living in a certain city or location. There are a lot of other identity markers as well.

All of the things that I have listed above are things that work as identity markers.  While it excludes most people, it also includes a certain group of people identifying themselves with and feeling that they belong to.

Each group has certain values and shares things like certain ethics and moral standpoints regarding different aspects of life.

This has a certain number of surveys shown made by different dating sites, and I am just giving you the facts here. The fact is that no one agrees with everybody about everything. I am sure you have colleagues, friends or family members that don’t agree with you in every standpoint you make.

Even Christians are diversified in matters like abortion and politics, to mention two things, and I haven’t even mentioned theology. We also belong to different churches that have different standpoints that we may or may not agree on. Just have a look at xpdating.com‘s list, and you will see different kinds of Christianity.

However, we shall all remember the apostle St. Paul’s letter to the Christians in Colossus when he writes: “Here there is neither Greek nor Jew, circumcised or uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave or free but Christ is all and in all.” (Col. 3:11 New English Translation)

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People Are Different Yet Want Someone They Can Identify Themselves With

People Are Different, And This Is Something Everybody Have To Accept

Since most readers of this blog live in democratic societies, we all have to accept that people around us have different opinions and different standpoints. We don’t have to agree with everybody about everything, and they don’t have to agree with us either. Sometimes the only thing we actually can agree on is that we disagree on a particular topic.

The same thing is true when it comes to dating as I have written above. We are identifying ourselves with certain groups of people, and we do this all the time. I personally feel that there is a bright future for dating sites like xpdating.com.

The most important thing is that we respect each other and agree that we sometimes disagree and know that it is outstanding.

The consensus is sometimes reached, although not always but respecting each other’s different opinions are necessary if we should avoid conflict and stop showing each other love.

The first Christians also conflicted, and this is what the apostle Paul addresses in 1 Cor. 12:1 when he writes that we as Christians shall say: “I belong to Jesus Christ” and not to a certain church or apostle.

Next blog post

My next blog post will be published on March the 16th 2016.

It will be about the spring and summer on Chi Rho Dating.

See you then,
Rickard

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