Dating In Real Life: Top 3 Mistakes On A First Date

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Introduction

In this blog post, I will list the three most common mistakes that men and women do on first dates, and they are in part based upon my own experience.

Start by thinking which you can think of and then continue to read them below.

You are more than welcome to comment them on social media, but if you want me to answer them, I would ask you to leave a comment below.

Top 3 Mistakes That Most Singles Do On A First Date

I have listed all three mistakes in three categories; Reason, Best Practice, and Risk.

Although they are quite self-explanatory I would like to explain them in brief:

Reason – why you should avoid this practice.

Best Practice – the best way according to my knowledge of how to avoid this mistake

Risk – what you’re risking if you make this mistake

According to my own experience, the top 3 mistakes people do on first dates are:

1. Not Showing Up On Time

In most Western societies this is a big “no-no” on a first date.

If you know that you won’t make it to the appointed time, don’t hesitate to call or text your date.

Reason: If a person knows that you are late for a reason they won’t be annoyed at you when you’re showing up a bit late.

Best Practice: The best way to avoid this is to arrive about half an hour before the time at the establishment where you’ve decided to meet. Of course, if your date will pick you up, then it won’t be a problem for you.

Risk: If you don’t contact your date and tell him or her that you’re a bit late, that person might think that you’ve lost interest in them and leave.

2. Bring A Chaperon To Your Date

Although it was highly recommended on the FAQ-section of our dating site, you should at least not introduce that person to your date, whether it is a parent or a friend of yours that agrees to accompany you on a first date.

Reason: You want to portrait yourself as an independent person and not as someone dependent on your friend’s or parents. After all, if you are going to have a relationship with this person, someone else won’t accompany you the entire time for the rest of your life.

Best Practice: Have your chaperon sitting a couple of tables away from you and your date but yet able to watch the table where and your date will sit. If your first date is in a cinema, the best practice is to sit a couple of rows behind. Don’t let the person reveal him or her to your date if it’s not necessary for safety reasons and doesn’t introduce them to your friends (this goes for both of you).

Risk: If your chaperon is too obvious, your date might think, “This person has no self-confidence and no opinion of his-/her own. If we would have a relationship, it wouldn’t be two in that relationship but at least three”.

3.  The Awkwardness Of Silence

Being silent on a date is never something good. So how should you avoid it?

Reason: If you are silent your date might think that you’ve lost interest in him or her. This is of the utmost importance that you avoid.

Best Practice: Reread the profile and see what kind of hobbies your date have and prepare other topics as well but keep them as neutral as possible. You shouldn’t ask your date about how many kids they want, what kind of house they’re picturing themselves in and avoid questions like: “Where do you see us in 5 or 10 years from now?”. It’s way too serious for a first date.

Risk: You are risking either to intimidate your date by being silent. There is absolutely no one who likes someone who can talk but don’t open their mouth and listens. You might be seen as rude or just as someone who lost interest in your date or are bored with the topics you’re discussing.

The list is actually quite long, but I have decided to use the 3 most common mistakes people do on a first date since the list would have been too long to fit this blog.

Summary & Final Thoughts

There are many more things you should avoid, but these are some of the common mistakes I’ve listed above, and I do hope you find it helpful.

Avoiding your chaperon to give themselves away, avoiding silence on your first date and not showing up on an appointed time are three of the most common mistakes that singles do these days.

If you show other people some decency, you will hopefully become a bit more successful when you’re on your next first date.

Comments are always welcome.

Avoiding these mistakes is, of course, no guarantee for an “instant success” on a first date, there are many things that play a part when we decide if a person is “right” or “wrong” for us.

We are humans, we are sinners, and we make mistakes.

This is, unfortunately, also how we learn things as human beings.

Practice makes perfect is a saying that indeed is very true when it comes to dating and especially the first date.

Next blog post

My next blog post will be published on the 12th of March 2016.

It will discuss the reason why most people are looking for someone similar to themselves.

See you then,
Rickard