How Can Infatuation Help Women Attract Men?

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What Does Infatuated Mean?

This article will discuss what infatuation means, how it’s different from love, and how it can help you in your personal love life.

So, first, I need to describe what infatuation is.

Infatuation is often described as an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something.

It is sometimes described as the word lust, and your behavior is very different when you compare infatuation with love, which I will do at the end of this article.

When you experience infatuation, at least as a man, I can tell you that you are more likely and willing to take risks than when you are in love. This is, of course, just my personal experience.

Let me give you an example:

Imagine that you are infatuated with someone, and this person will play a concerto or participate in a martial arts event.

If you are infatuated, you might suggest that you join that person, even if it’s something that you have absolutely no experience in and the other person has undergone years of training and practice. Basically:

You don’t make rational decisions because you act first and think about the consequences later.

This is, after all, what infatuation is all about!

But is there such a thing as infatuation love, or is it just something else?

What Is Infatuation Love?

You can be infatuated with love, but you can’t be in love with infatuation. Are love and infatuation the same thing, or are they opposites of one another?

I would argue that they are contradictions to one another.

While infatuation comes and goes away quickly, love grows, and you also need to nurture it and invest in it to sustain it.

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Now, I will discuss the difference between love and infatuation.

Is There Any Difference Between Love and Infatuation?

As you have noticed if you read the introduction, infatuation is a short-lived passion for someone, but what is love then?

Love can be described as deep affection.

Let me give you another example that describes the difference between love and infatuation. This time I will use an example from the Bible.

When King David watches Bat-Sheba on the roof-top taking a bath, he is infatuated with her. Later on, he falls in love with her, just as the Bible itself says!

This relationship works as a model for true love in the Bible, between humans, and describes how infatuation works.

It goes away quickly. This is inevitable the result of infatuation.

You can’t build a long-term successful relationship with infatuation. Because if you want to do it, you need these emotional triggers:

Uncertainty

• Independence. You need to make it clear to him that you are an independent woman and would be perfectly fine without him.
• Qualification. He needs to qualify to “win” you over to him. You are a prize he needs to “deserve.”
• Create a barrier. Make him respect you and understand that you have limitations. You are a real human being, not a fantasy of his.

Investment

• Set his expectations right from the first place. This connects to the last bullet point as well. He needs to know that you are not “playing” with him or his emotions.
• Reciprocity. In a relationship, you invest emotions to make it grow. You are already doing it, and he needs to understand that he needs to invest his feelings as well to make the relationship to work.
• Shaping. A relationship is like cutting a diamond. You will shape him, so he becomes the man of your dreams.

Curiosity

• Contrast. You are the woman in this relationship, allow him to be the man.
• Intrigue loops. If you have read about my HIT-formula, you do no that intrigue is what makes up the “I” in this acronym. You need to create interest and become a challenge to him.
• Teasers. Everybody loves teasing. Women love to tease men and men do love to tease women as well.

Now, if you want to learn them, I recommend you watch this video that explains how you can use all of them to make the infatuation into a long-term relationship.

Next Article

My next article will be published on the 16th of December 2017.

It will discuss how we are formed in relationships as human beings.

Have a great week,

Rickard