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Dating Advice for Men: Where Are You Dating?
In this blog post, I will discuss the fact that where you are dating matters.
So, you have picked a dating arena, without even knowing it probably.
What I mean with an arena is the place where you go to try to find someone to date and eventually fall in love with.
Do you prefer to date in your city or have you expanded your views to the surrounding areas, maybe the entire country or do you look for someone to date that lives in another country or even a different continent?
These are things that will influence your success in finding love.
In the modern world, since we are getting more and more globalized we also have the ability to find our love in another part of the world. Please read more below…
Please read more below…
Where You Are Dating Influence Your Success
When you are dating in close proximity to where you live, your successes of finding love are pretty high especially if you’re looking for someone that you may visit every day and spend time with to get to know that person a lot better.
No doubt that when you have longer distances, you will not know each other as good as if you were living in the same area.
However, this does not diminish your chances to find love even if your love lives on a different continent.
We are living in a globalized world and with airplanes, humans can easily travel between continents and cross country borders that were impossible just one or two generations ago.
It is pretty awesome if you think about it actually.
With the Internet, the distance between people and even continents decreases.
We also have invented a whole set of new ways to communicate over the last 30 years: Text-chat, cell phones, smartphones, tablets, computers and video-chat applications that we can bring with us wherever we are on the entire planet.
Most people are using social media to communicate with friends and even families on the other side of the world.
If someone would have said this in say 1988, it would seem just as impossible for most people living in West-Europe at that time as claiming that the Berlin wall would be demolished before 1990 and the entire Soviet Union would collapse just a couple of years later.
There are pros and cons dating locally, nation-wide and internationally.
I won’t lie to you and for this reason, I have shared some insights below.
Local Dating (City-wide, Regional and Nation-Wide) Pros And Cons
Pros:
- You would probably speak the same language. This is something good since you won’t be limiting yourself to speak a different language or even using Internet translators that to put it mildly sometimes translates sentences and figures of speech word by word so it will not be understood by the person you’re dating.
- Low travel costs. Traveling inside a city is, of course, the cheapest. The further you need to travel to meet someone, the higher the cost of your hard earned cash.
- Local dishes, local restaurants and meeting places. When you’re going to decide where you should meet your date, chances are higher that both of you know where the place is located. If you’re on a dinner date, chances are also pretty high that you both can identify and knows which dishes you could eat. For halal/kosher-observing, vegetarians, vegans and people with severe food allergies, this is of utmost importance due to their special dietary requirements, their chosen lifestyle or their religious beliefs.
- Local entertainment. If you will go to the opera house, the theatre, the cinema or another cultural or maybe even sports event, you would probably know.
- Easy to verify that the person is who he or she claims to be. If you get an address or a phone number you can verify that the person actually is who he or she claims to be.
Cons:
- If you’re breaking up with someone you might bump into them later on. This can be emotionally tough for you.
- If you have one place you always go to on a first date, the staff would get to know you. It might be pretty uncomfortable for your date if the waiter or waitress says something like: “Oh! It’s you again! Would you have the regular dish/wine/order or would you choose something else this time? I see it’s a new one now, what happened to the last guy/gal? Did you break up?” OK, I admit that it would be very unprofessional of a waiter/waitress to ask you that but trust me, it has happened to me once. After that incident I didn’t go to that restaurant ever again, I also would like you to know.
- The person might know where you live. This can be a problem if the person has mental problems or have hidden intentions with the date. It might sound a bit over-exaggerated, I know but you should not go home to either you or your date’s apartment/house after a first date. You should always leave the first date separately.
International (Dating In Another Country Or Continent) Pros And Cons
There are some advantages of dating internationally also of course as well as some disadvantages. Here they are:
Pros:
- You don’t risk running into your date if it failed miserably.
- You get to know another city/area/country/continent. It is always nice to see the world we live in and how differentiated it is.
- You have the ability to get to know your date first. Sure, you can’t spend time with him/her every day, every weekend or during the holidays but this should only mean that you can slow things down.
Cons:
- Do you speak the same language? Does he/she understand you when you’re speaking English? It is good to test these things and then go back to the hotel room alone. Otherwise, there might be severe consequences (being accused of a crime and so on) for you. Mind the body language and be aware that there might be some differences. If you’re not sure about what your date means, ask!
- What does he/she want with me? Are they true to their intentions? Does it seem like he/she also want to start a romantic relationship with me?
- Do I know what I’m eating? Is it safe for me? This is important since you don’t want your first visit to a country to end up in the bathroom or even worse: getting seriously ill!
OK, I know that these things might seem a bit harsh but you really should think everything through before you even sending a wink to someone. Just set your priorities straight and then go and have fun! I hope you find love whether you do it in another country or your local city.
Next blog post
My next blog post will be published on Wednesday the 12th of August 2015.
It will be about respecting your date and being true to yourself at the same time.
Take care,
Rickard
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