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Summary
Today’s Article Discuss “The Parent Paradox” In Dating.
What It Can Reveal To You About What You Are Looking For And How It Affects Your Choice When Deciding Who Is “The Right One” For You.
Find Out More Below…
What Is The Parent Paradox?
The Parent Paradox In Dating Is Something Not Many Single Are Aware Of.
I Haven’t Seen This On Other Dating Blogs That I Read, So It’s Not An Aspect That Is Discussed Widely.
Personally, I Think It Is Because Not Many People Are Aware Of It.
Yet, It Really Matters In The Choices And Decisions You Make When You Decide Whether He Or She Is “THE RIGHT ONE” Or Not.
[Tweet “Your Relationship To Your Parents Affect The Relationship You Are Looking For In Your Ideal Spouse” — Dating Coach Rickard”]
Generally Speaking, You Are Unintentionally Looking For Some Personality Traits You Have Identified In The Parent Of The Opposite Sex When You Grew Up.
These Traits Are The Ones That Is Admirable and Desirable To You And For This Reason, You Want To Find Them In Your Ideal Partner.
This Is What I Am Referring To As “The Parent Paradox”.
It Is The Main Reason Most Single Men Are Looking For Women That Reminds Them Of Their Mom And Women Are Looking For Men That Reminds Them Of Their Dad.
It’s Really As Simple As That!
Needless To Say, It Is Not Limited To Your Parents But To Anyone Who Was Your Rawmodel When You Grew Up.
However, In Most Cases, It Is Our Parents That Imprint The Ideas and Impressions In Our Minds Of How A Man Or Woman Should Be As Well As How A Relationship Should Be.
This Is The Reason Why I Am Calling It The Parent Paradox.
What The Parent Paradox Can Teach You
I Have Put Together A Small List Of 7 Things The Parent Paradox Teaches You That I Will Share With You In A Moment.
However, Before I Do That, I Need To Make A Quick Statement:
It’s Not Only Between You and Your Lover That The Parent Paradox Is Valid But It Affects All Your Relationships You Will Have With Other Humans Throughout Your Entire Life.
To Simplify Things, I Decided To Use 3 Examples Of Personality Traits That Are Admirable For Each And Every Relationship That You Can Think Of.
It’s Not Conclusive By Any Means But The List Should Give You A Couple Of Ideas On Things You Want To Be For The Lookout In A Future Spouse, No Matter Who You Are Looking For.
The Parent Paradox Teaches You 7 Things Primarily:
- How A Man/Woman Should Behave (E.g. Nice, Humorous, Friendly)
- How A Man/Woman Should Be In A Relationship (E.g. Friendly, Determined, Truthful)
- How A Man/Woman Should Treat Their Lover (E.g. Respect, Honest, Truthful)
- How A Man/Woman Should Take Care Of Their Elderly Parents (E.g. Dignity, Respect, Loving)
- How A Man/Woman Should Treat Their Kids (E.g. Supportive, Loving, Setting Rules)
- How A Man/Woman Should Treat and Behave Around Their Friends (E.g. Respect, Honest, Supportive)
- What Society Expect From A Man/Woman (E.g. Hardworking, Supportive, Loving)
I Have Decided To Only List Good Personality Traits Above But Unfortunately, The Opposite Is Also True.
If Someone Grew Up In An Abusive Environment, That Person Is Likely To Look For Men/Women With The Same Traits As The Abuser, Whether It’s Drugs, Domestic Violence Or Other Kinds Of Abuse.
In Some Aspects, This Has Developed Into A Co-Dependancy.
The Co-Depency Has Grown Over The Years Into A Form Of Unhealthy Relationship, That Has Become Normal To The Abused Child.
In Order To Break This Kind Of Behaviour, You Need Professional Help.
Although I Can’t Help You With This Particular Issue, I Can Inform You What It Might Lead To Unless You Change Your Behaviour:
You Will Just Repeat The Same Kind Of Behavioural Patterns Over And Over Again.
Sometimes, It Might Be A Desperate Act Of Saving This Person In Order To Compensate For The “Failure” You Unknowingly Feel For Not Being Able To Save Your Dad Or Mom.
So, The Parent Paradox Unfortunately Can Work Both In A Positive and Constructive Way As Well As In A Negative and Destructive Way.
The Question You Need To Ask Yourself Is: Who Am I Really Dating?
Next Article
My Next Article Will Be Published On September, 17th 2016.
It Will Discuss Intercultural Dating.
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