The Shall’s And Shall Not’s Of Christian Dating

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Introduction

In the first blog post of 2014, we will tell you what is in store for the winter and spring, the shall’s and shall not’s of Christian dating and our new headline will make it’s debut.

What’s up?

We like to boast about how many languages we are available in. More languages will be added at the end of January and the end of February. Then that part (and hopefully winter too) is over and we will turn our attention to expand our availability and our appearance.

A month ago we started to develop alternative looks for our site since some people had told us that they didn’t th ink that our site was appealing as much as it could.

We are thinking about having a voting among the readers and members of our site and have your say about this important issue.

Our appearance might change but not our focus on you.

We will get back with the details in future blog posts during the winter.

Another thing that came up during our last meeting before the Holiday season was our availability. It has come to our attention that while many people in the Western world are surfing on their computers, a lot of people in other parts of the World surfs the Web with their tablets or smartphones.

We are therefore looking for solutions that will make our site more available on mobile platforms although we have tested our current website on them and they do work pretty well.

illustration of Moses Carrying The Ten Commandments On A Tablet
illustration of Moses Carrying The Ten Commandments On A Tablet

The Shall’s of Christian Dating.

If we would have boasted about it we would have called it “The Ten Commandments”, although it might have seemed suitable for our site we have thought about it and decided that while God’s Commandments are unchangeable and last for ever, human behavioral patterns changes constantly and on the Internet it seems to change every few days or even hours sometimes and therefore it would have been disrespectful to God to call it that.

These are therefore the Shall’s of Christian Dating:

You shall be honest and respectful to Your fellow Christian brother or sister that you chat with. Never be disrespectful or say things that you wouldn’t have said to a person if you met him or her face-to-face.

If You don’t feel that the person is right for you, tell it upfront to that person. Otherwise, it would only be a waste of time with both your and the other person time.

You shall be truthful with the things You can tolerate in the other person’s behavior, moral or previous relationship status and things You find totally unacceptable. If you’re not true about this then you aren’t really honest or truthful to yourself or the other person.

You shall tell the person what You expect. It wouldn’t be fair to start chatting with somebody that just wants Christian friends if you are looking for your true Christian love.

The Shall Nots of Christian Dating.

There are certain things You shall not tolerate. They are the Shall not’s.

You shall not have sex on the first date. This would be fornication if you don’t marry in the end.

You shall not have sex before marriage. It is worth waiting for the wedding night to do so. This would be utterly wrong since that could lead to children outside of wedlock and could give you a lot of different problems depending on which society that you live in.

You shall not date people that are considerable younger or older compared to your own age.

For the same reason persons that are considerable younger (more than 7 years for women and 5 years for men) or older (more than 5 years for women and 2 years for men) in comparison to your own age, since people mature differently. Needless to say, these are recommendations and there are of course exceptions from these.

You shall not date more than one person. This is just dishonest. Stick to one person instead. Otherwise, it is fornication, if not physical it is so in a psychological or mental way.

You shall not marry more than one person.

Although some groups that calls themselves Christians are practitioners of polygamy we consider them to be fornicators since they are not doing what both God and the Savior ordered: “Therefore a man should leave his father and his mother to live with one woman so that they shall become one flesh” (Gn 2,24, Matthew 49,5 and Mark 10,7).

If somebody would argue that the Bible commands polygamy by looking to the patriarchs, let’s face the facts: Abraham did have a multitude of wives and co-wives but he rejected them all when his promised son started a family of his own (Gn 21,10 and 25,6).

Isaac himself fell in love with Rebekah and married her (Gn 24,67). Jacob was tricked by his uncle Laban to have two wives, Leah and Rachel but he always showed that his true love was Rachel (Gn 29,18). With these evidences at hand: Polygamy only leads to betrayal, lying and favouring one person over another, just as persons that want to combine the worship of different religions (such as Christianity and Buddhism) or God and Mammon (Matthew 6,24) are utterly mistaken and misleads themselves away from the Way of the One True God.

You shall not misrepresent yourself. Don’t pretend that you are younger or older than you actually are and don’t write that you look like a celebrity if you really don’t do it in your presentation. If you are chatting with a person and write something wrong, don’t be afraid to write a formal excuse to that person. This is easy if the other person does not live in your own country or has a different ethnic or cultural setting as the one you yourself belongs to.

You shall not write that you tolerate things that you don’t. This is all about being honest and not misrepresenting yourself, it’s dating 101 basically.

So to summarize it: Be yourself, be true to God and your values and be honest.

If you are a Bible teacher, you want your students to understand God’s word.

If you are a minister, priest or pastor you want your congregation to pay attention and to be transformed to be the living body of Christ.

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Next blog post

The next blog post will be published on January 4th, 2014.

It will be giving you 5 reasons to join the dating website.

Until then,

Chi Rho Dating

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