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Introduction
In the first blog post of 2014, we will tell you what is in store for the winter and spring, the shall’s and shall not’s of Christian dating, and our new headline will make its debut.
What’s up?
We like to boast about how many languages we are available in. More languages will be added at the end of January and the end of February. Then that part (and hopefully winter too) is over, and we will turn our attention to expanding our availability and our appearance.
A month ago, we started to develop alternative looks for our site since some people had told us that they didn’t think that our site was appealing as much as it could.
We are considering a reader and member vote to have your say on this important issue.
Our appearance might change, but our focus on you won’t.
We will get back with the details in future blog posts during the winter.
Another thing that came up during our last meeting before the Holiday season was our availability. It has come to our attention that while many people in the Western world surf the Web on their computers, many in other parts of the world surf the Web on their tablets or smartphones.
We are therefore looking for solutions to make our site more accessible on mobile platforms, although we have tested our current website on them and it works pretty well.
The Shall’s of Christian Dating.
If we would have boasted about it we would have called it “The Ten Commandments”, although it might have seemed suitable for our site we have thought about it and decided that while God’s Commandments are unchangeable and last for ever, human behavioral patterns changes constantly and on the Internet it seems to change every few days or even hours sometimes and therefore it would have been disrespectful to God to call it that.
These are therefore the Shall’s of Christian Dating:
You shall be honest and respectful to your fellow Christian brother or sister with whom you chat. Never be disrespectful or say things that you wouldn’t have said to a person if you met them face-to-face.
If you don’t feel that the person is right for you, tell them upfront. Otherwise, it would be a waste of time for both you and the other person.
You shall be truthful about the things you can tolerate in the other person’s behavior, moral or previous relationship status, and things you find totally unacceptable. If you’re not telling the truth about this, you’re not really honest or truthful with yourself or the other person.
You shall tell the person what you expect. It wouldn’t be fair to start chatting with somebody who just wants Christian friends if you are looking for your true Christian love.
The Shall Nots of Christian Dating.
There are certain things you shall not tolerate. They are the Shall not’s.
You shall not have sex on the first date. This would be fornication if you don’t marry in the end.
You shall not have sex before marriage. It is worth waiting for the wedding night to do so. This would be utterly wrong since that could lead to children outside of wedlock and could give you a lot of different problems depending on the society in which you live.
You shall not date people who are considerably younger or older than your own age.
For the same reason, people who are considerably younger (more than 7 years for women and 5 years for men) or older (more than 5 years for women and 2 years for men) in comparison to your own age, since people mature differently. Needless to say, these are recommendations, and there are, of course, exceptions to these.
You shall not date more than one person. This is just dishonest. Stick to one person instead. Otherwise, it is fornication, if not physical, it is so in a psychological or mental way.
You shall not marry more than one person.
Although some groups that call themselves Christians are practitioners of polygamy, we consider them to be fornicators since they are not doing what both God and the Savior ordered: “Therefore a man should leave his father and his mother to live with one woman so that they shall become one flesh” (Gn 2,24, Matthew 49,5 and Mark 10,7).
If somebody would argue that the Bible commands polygamy by looking to the patriarchs, let’s face the facts: Abraham did have a multitude of wives and co-wives, but he rejected them all when his promised son started a family of his own (Gn 21,10 and 25,6).
Isaac himself fell in love with Rebekah and married her (Gn 24,67). Jacob was tricked by his uncle Laban into having two wives, Leah and Rachel, but he consistently showed that his true love was Rachel (Gn 29,18). With this evidence at hand, Polygamy only leads to betrayal, lying, and favoring one person over another, just as persons who want to combine the worship of different religions (such as Christianity and Buddhism) or God and Mammon (Matthew 6,24) are utterly mistaken and mislead themselves away from the Way of the One True God.
You shall not misrepresent yourself. Don’t pretend you are younger or older than you actually are, and don’t write that you look like a celebrity if you really don’t in your presentation. If you are chatting with someone and write something wrong, don’t be afraid to write a formal apology. This is easy if the other person does not live in your country or has a different ethnic or cultural background than you do.
You shall not write that you tolerate things that you don’t. This is all about being honest and not misrepresenting yourself; it’s basically dating 101.
So, to summarize: be yourself, be true to God and your values, and be honest.
More Articles About Christian Dating for You
If you want to learn more about Christian dating in the modern world, here are a few articles you might want to read next:
- Seasonal Dating: Dating During Easter
- Why We Celebrate Lent?
- Why Do We Celebrate Pentecost?
- Why Do We Celebrate Epiphany?
- Why We Celebrate Ascension Day
- Christian Love in Action
- Dating Secrets Online Revealed: Hope, Faith, and Love
Until then,
Chi Rho Dating
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