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It isn’t comforting when he pretends not to like you when you know that he does, as it is when a man displays these signs that he doesn’t love you and claims he does.
A high-quality man will never try to play games will you or try to fake love or be fond of you.
Men who play these games with women they pretend to like are emotionally immature men who don’t deserve a woman’s love.
However, some men are better at hiding it than others.
For that reason, I think you will appreciate that in the full article that continues below, I will discuss the following:
- How to identify the signs he only pretends to like you
- How to know if he’s faking it and why he might fake it
- How to spot the signs he pretends to like you online and in text messages
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How to Identify the Signs He Pretends to Like You
There are plenty of reasons for him to pretend to like you if he thinks he can get something from you that will benefit him.
The most obvious one is sex.
Men who try to sleep with you on the first date are not as ordinary as most women think; there are still a few, but they are not complicated to identify.
If you’re on a date and notice that he doesn’t respect your boundaries, that should be a red flag.
For instance, if you tell him that you don’t want him to move closer to you, and he still does, claiming that he wants to be close to you, that is a clear sign that he doesn’t respect your physical boundaries.
That one was quite obvious.
The other obvious is if he tries to talk you into sex, even if you’ve told him it is out of the question on a first date.
Here are a few other signs that men will display if they don’t like you:
- They get as much out of you as they possibly can without ever “repaying” their debt
- They don’t care what you say or even bother memorizing it
- The only reason to talk to you is to complain and wine
- They are around you because it will benefit them
- When you need their emotional support, you can’t find him
- Body language and eye contact are avoidant at best
- They use the same old boring lines to try to seduce you
In that article, I list more red flags you need to look for when the two of you meet IRL and how to identify whether he has feelings for you or is faking it.
They Get As Much Out of You Without “Repaying” Their Debt
If they owe you anything, whether money or service, you will not be able when you reach them, and when you do, they promise to repay you the next time they see you.
However, that never happens.
If you ever catch him again, he has forgotten all about it.
They Don’t Care About What You Say or Even Bother Memorizing It
A person who doesn’t bother memorizing things you told him, in trust or otherwise, isn’t boyfriend- or husband behavior.
No matter what you say to them, they will invariably forget about it.
They will also try to avoid the entire discussion and blame you for not telling them the same thing you recently told them.
That is flaky behavior and should raise some concern in you.
The Only Reason to Talk to You Is to Complain, and Wine
Yes, we all had friends or partners who only talked about everything wrong with their life. They need you for emotional support, and guess what?
When you need theirs, they’re long gone, nowhere to be found or contacted.
As annoying as it may be, that alone should indicate to you that he doesn’t like you genuinely but rather wants to use you for his own selfish needs.
Men who only contact you when they need a shoulder to cry out on are toxic.
If you think you deserve the best, and I think you do, then you should try to eliminate toxic people who aren’t your immediate family or close relatives.
They Are Around You Because It Will Benefit Them
They are around you because you make them seem “cool” and get close to people in your life who they think can be of good “use” to them.
Men will use you to get to them and, ultimately, some perceived benefit.
If they think they can gain any benefits from being around them or rub their shoulders to get some emotional or financial support, they will not hesitate to use you to get it.
You might think these men are around you because they care about you.
The sad truth is that they don’t care about your feelings; these men only mimic empathy which is a sign of psychopaths and sociopaths.
When You Need Emotional Support, They’re Gone
Men who are toxic or are using you to get some benefit from you will be gone sooner rather than later if you ever ask them to support you emotionally.
They would dismiss you as needy, wanting, and emotionally unstable and block your number and all your accounts on social media, so they don’t “risk” getting a message through, and they might stop your friends too and move to another city in the most extreme cases.
If you want to be sure whether he likes you or is only pretending to like you, here is the answer to how often you should hear from your boyfriend.
Body Language and Eye Contact Are Avoidant at Best
If you notice that he is trying to avoid eye contact when he talks with you, it might be a cultural thing if you think good about him, but it might be a reason for hiding that he’s lying to you.
Another clear indication is his body language.
If he is sitting with his arms and legs crossed, he isn’t conveying openness with his body, and that should be a clear indication that he’s not as into you as his behavior says he is.
If you ever notice that his behavior doesn’t agree with his body language, you need to start worrying.
He might try to fool you, himself, or both of you that he likes you more than he does, and most of the time, it is a deliberate act from him, and he will most certainly use it to seduce you.
The body language will reveal to you that he likes you and not pretends.
They Use the Same Old Boring Lines to Try to Seduce You
Some men use them to make you laugh, while others try to use them to seduce you.
I’m referring to “pick up lines,” phrases that allegedly “work” to get someone out on a date and become romantically involved with another human being.
If you’ve heard one of them, you have listened to all of them more or less.
I understand it seems boring to you, so I never tell men to use them since I know they don’t work.
Instead, I would advise you to use a particular set of words to help determine whether he is trying to fool you or likes you.
Signs He Is Pretending Not to Like You Online or Over Text
The characters he is pretending not to like you over text and online are the same since you will not meet him IRL but through a text-based medium.
If you can video chat with him, you could also look for the seven red flags I listed above.
The behavior you need to be mindful of are:
- If he doesn’t text you or chat with you regularly
- If he always comes up with excuses
- If days go by without him talking to you while he demands you to answer him ASAP
Yes, that’s also referred to as ghosting, and here are some texts to stop it from happening to you.
In that article, I will discuss why men behave erratically and why the video I refer to will help you clarify whether he likes you.
Sometimes men are evil, and other times men behave pretty erratically.
That is not an exclusively male trait but a general human behavior because sometimes we behave quite strangely when trying to find someone to love and share.
All you need to do is to send him the sneaky text message men can’t resist (click or tap below to watch the video)
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Can a Guy Pretend to Like You and Why?
The short answer is yes. So, why would someone pretend not to like you?
For very selfish and immature reasons like wanting to get in the sack with you or using you to get something else that will benefit him greatly.
Men who behave this way are emotionally immature and not worth your time.
Here are seven certain traits that he pretends to like you but doesn’t:
- They get as much out of you as they possibly can without ever “repaying” their debt
- They don’t care what you say or even bother memorizing it
- The only reason to talk to you is to complain and wine
- They are around you because it will benefit them
- When you need their emotional support, you can’t find him
- Body language and eye contact are avoidant at best
- They use the same old boring lines to try to seduce you
If you can identify any of them, you need to get out of that relationship ASAP because otherwise, it will consume you.
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