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Fear of Rejection Phobia

In this article, I will discuss the fear of rejection that both men and women face when we are putting ourselves out on the dating scene.

Unlike most fears, this is something that is not a non-rational mental, physical or psychological fear but a very rational feeling based on our own unique personal experiences.

It is very scary to put yourself out there, because, let’s face it, you are actually open up to criticism from other singles and this is indeed something we might not approve or like but another way to look at it is that we need to risk something to gain something we want.

Let me give you a very simple example immediately, when you first applied for the job you currently have, you were one of many applicants but still, your employer picked you eventually.

[Tweet “”Dating is a lot like applying for a new job. However, you are applying for something better: #love!”-Dating Coach Rickard #mondaymotivation “]

You might have hesitated before you applied but you still did it.

How can we use this experience and overcome our rational fear of rejection in dating?

I will explain it in further detail below in this rather long article.

How to Overcome Fear of Rejection

Is there an easy way to overcome your fear of rejection?

We fear different kinds of rejection such as losing our health, our youth and our lives but in relationships, we fear that it may end unexpectedly and that the person we currently live with will leave us.

This is something that both men and women fear that will be discussed in further detail later in this article.

Before I discuss that, I want to discuss how to overcome your fear of rejection in further detail.

In modern society, even if we are rejected in a relationship, it does not mean that we are banned from participating in the society in other ways or “hang out” with our friends.

Up until recently, being an outcast or being “rejected” could be lethal to that individual.

This is something that we still fear since it is the way we are “wired” as human beings and trying to suppress any feelings, behaviors or choices that society has labeled as “deviant”.

In plain English: We want to “fit in” and “be” someone in our own right rather than be the subject of others judgment and referred to as “the strange person”, “the stranger” or “the other”.

Instead of being afraid of this, I think we should follow a raw model that might have been one of the most outcasted throughout the history of mankind.

It is someone I follow and someone I put all my hope and faith in; Jesus Christ.

My best advice is that you do not care about how other people view you but mirror yourself in the reflection of Jesus Christ and chances are that you will find a lot of flaws in you but also remember that even he, who was despised by many has become the cornerstone of love and the cornerstone of the faith.

Fear of Rejection in Relationships

In relationships, we fear that he or she might leave me but we also fear that if this happens, our friends will leave me too.

Women especially fear that the man they are living with will become distant and pull away while men fear that the woman he currently lives with will reject them and find another guy that is “better” or “more manly” than they are.

[Tweet “”Women’s no.1 fear is that the man will pull away while men fear to “lose” her to a “better” man. -Dating Coach Rickard #quote #relationshipadvice”]

For this reason, both men and women need to start talking and communicate to the other person how they feel and what they are afraid of.

Even though a lot of men think they need to “suck it up” and be hard, eventually the surface will crack and crumble down on them.

This might also be a reason for men to pull away and become more distant which might be the reason why the relationship eventually ends.

That is the main reason why communication is so important for both men and women in both dating and established relationships.

As promised earlier in this article, I will now discuss how rejection in relationships reminds a lot about your job application.

You might be afraid to lose your job that when you first applied for it, you didn’t know if your current employer would hire you or someone else.

You made your best effort and you succeeded to get that job.

There was probably some kind of benefit that you either negotiated or were included in your current employment or maybe it was just a better salary offered than your previous job.

The best part of being in a relationship is that you are two persons and you always have someone who can listen to your problems and you will listen to his/her problems as well and offer comfort and advice whenever the other person in the relationship needs it.

Each relationship also offers its unique opportunities and all relationships are different from one another.

Needless to say, a relationship also has its challenges and all relationships offer different and unique challenges to them.

[Tweet “”All #relationships offers their own distinct challenges and unique opportunities” -Dating Coach Rickard #quote”]

If you feel that you have a problem, discuss it with the other person.

Maybe you need professional relationship counseling or maybe you simply need a close friend to offer you advice about your relationship.

Sometimes one will work better than the other and help you to get past your disputes while working on your relationship together, as a couple.

The best “job” you can have is to be there for better and for worse.

A relationship is never only about when everything is running smoothly in your life because sometimes there will be unexpected things that will happen and that will make bumps on your road and in your relationship.

A relationship is hard work, it’s not just mere fun or a walk in the park and you have to remember this before you commit yourself to a new relationship.

[Tweet “”A #relationship is hard work, not a walk in the park.” -Dating Coach Rickard #quote”]

I hope you have found this article interesting and helpful.

Next Article

In my next article, I will discuss breakups and if it is possible to get your ex back.

It will be published on the 22nd of July 2017.

Have a great week,

Rickard