How Shy Guys Should Approach a Woman

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How should shy guys approach a woman?

If you want to know some of the best practices, this article will be helpful since it will address how men with social anxiety disorder shall approach women to get them out on a date.

This article discusses shyness and social anxiety disorder, their causes, and their treatment.

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The author of this article is not a trained professional in medicine, psychology, psychiatry, or cognitive behavioral therapy. For professional advice, it is advised that you seek medical advice from a trained medical professional in your local area.

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Shyness and Social Anxiety

Sometimes we are shy and especially men, when we see a beautiful girl or woman.

It is natural, and we need to overcome our natural shyness if we want to ask her out on a date. A woman will feel it intuitively when a man is insecure and reject him bluntly.

There are many reasons why a man might feel insecure when approaching an attractive woman, such as:

• Previous experiences of rejection
• Getting nervous in front of a woman
• Suffering from a social anxiety disorder

If you would like to treat these things from happening, you need to know what causes every one of them.

For instance, your previous experiences of rejection affect your entire approach.

You feel insecure and need to approach her confidently and positively if you ever have the slightest chance to ask her out on a date.

It is your relationship with failure that comes into play here.

You fail, not because you want to, but because you listen to that little inner voice in your head that constantly reminds you of your past failures.

For this reason, you need to start thinking a bit more optimistically.

Think about all the times you had success in asking an attractive woman out on a date, and your confidence will be affected positively.

It’s all a cause-effect-behavior pattern that you need to master.

What Causes Shyness

There are many different reasons a person, especially men, is shy.

One thing that seems to be the difference can be low self-esteem or lack of self-confidence. It affects your overall impression and makes you less attractive to women.

We, men, might sometimes, especially when we approach an attractive woman, be intimidated and feel somewhat inferior to her.

A woman would know that and feels it intuitively just by looking at you.

If you feel worthless or suffer from depression, you will hesitate and try to avoid interacting with women, limiting yourself and avoiding expressing your opinions publically. It will make you look shy.

Remember: The first impression is essential in dating and life in general.

Of course, if you have had bad experiences, which I discussed above, especially with rejection, you might also be shy around women.

How would you describe yourself as someone you met for the first time?

The question might seem odd, but what it touches on is your self-image. It is another thing that might make cause your shyness.

Are you a firm believer in the expression “practice makes perfect”?

It might be the reason why you feel shy!

Perfection procrastinates. Practice is for action-takers.

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What Causes Social Anxiety?

Social anxiety disorder, or SAD for short, is caused by a fear of interacting with other human beings in social situations.

The mere thought cause people who suffer from this disorder to feel nauseated, start to blush, sweating excessively, and some will even have panic attacks when they are forced to be in these situations, to mention a few of the symptoms.

I write to people because both men and women suffer from SAD.

To get more information, you might find this article from Wikipedia helpful.

I also want to remind you that as a dating coach, I am not a trained expert in medicine, and I can not and will not suggest a treatment since this is beyond my level of expertise.

This article was written for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional advice.

Can NLP Solve Shyness and Social Anxiety?

I know that some men have found the neuro-linguistic pattern, or NLP for short,  to treat their shyness, while other men have found that this has little or no effect on them.

I strongly advise you to seek professional treatment for social anxiety, an actual disease.

Shyness is not a disease, just an intense form of awkwardness.

Let me clarify: Shyness around women is not a disease; it’s pretty natural.

This video discusses a method based on NLP that might be useful.*

The Best Treatment for Shyness

Shyness can be treated by self-medication or by professionals.

However, before you go out and seek professional advice for your shyness, you should read what I’m about to inform you about now.

If you suffer from shyness when you are approaching beautiful women, I suggest that you do the following:

• Start every morning by looking at yourself in your bathroom mirror and saying: I look incredibly handsome today. I will make something good happen today. I am awesome. Let’s do this!
• Make sure you give yourself credit when you are doing something good. It might be that you handled a situation particularly well or made someone feel good about themselves. Make sure you give yourself “mental” pats on your shoulder daily.
• If you are shy around women, you should watch this video.*

The Best Treatment for Social Anxiety

The best treatment for a social anxiety disorder is a professional treatment called cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT).

Since I’m not a trained professional in this field, I advise you to seek professional guidance if you suffer from SAD and want treatment.

Always consult a doctor or psychologist to receive more information about where to get treatment in your local area.

Whatever you do, I strongly advise you not to “self-medicate” but seek professional help.

NLP isn’t a clinical method. Since this is out of my expertise, I advise you to contact your doctor or another professional to get the complete list of treatments available to you in your unique situation.

To get more insight into NLP and dating, watch this video.*

Next Article

My next article will discuss the biggest dating dilemma most men face.

Have a nice day,

Rickard