The Biggest Dating Dilemma for Men

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Dating Tips for Men: Asking Her Out on a Date

In this article, I will discuss some of the biggest dating dilemmas for men.

The first one is, of course, approaching her and the second one is asking her out on a date.

Since I have written about this extensively, I won’t take up a lot of time and space on this article to discuss these matters all over again but simply direct you to these articles.

However, I do like to make some additions, just to make sure that you get more value from it.

Approaching a beautiful woman can be difficult if you’re shy.

You don’t know what to say, your mouth might get dry or you may rather leave her sitting there because you’re afraid that she will turn you down.

Fear is the biggest dating dilemma for us men by far when we approach a woman.

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Fear is a natural feeling when you are outside of your comfort zone.

For this reason, it is only natural to be afraid when we approach her and we are afraid when we ask an attractive woman out on a date.

It is always a daunting experience to approach a woman.

I have done this many times myself and mostly, nowadays, it does work pretty well for me unless I have done something else that my mind is preoccupied with.

When I approach a woman I always try to make her laugh.

I often use humour as an ice-breaker and then I can say something like:

I know you like to smile, what else do you like?

Just as an ice-breaker, the question that follows is important.

Unless you have something else to say, she will turn you down.

The reason why I don’t use pickup lines is that she has probably heard them all and I want to approach her very different than all the other guys.

By doing so, you will make yourself more easy to like.

If she likes you, she will be less reluctant to your proposal.

You can find more tips in the article How to Ask a Girl Out on a First Date.

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Dating Tips for Men: First Date Fears

Now that you actually had the guts to approach her and ask her out on a date there are different fears that start to pop up in your mind.

Here are some common fears of men on first dates:

• Am I the only guy attracted to her?
• Will I recognize her?
• Is this too soon to touch her?
• What if she doesn’t want to go out on a date with me again?
• What if I screw up?
• Go with the flow.
• Do I have butterflies in your stomach? Do I feel anxious?

What you can do to avoid these fears:

Let’s begin with the greatest one: Am I the only guy attracted to her?

This is the most common fear.

Every man has been there.

I know, because that is something that always pops up in my head when I’m on a first date with an attractive woman.

Will I recognize her?

This is a big one and is more common if you started your conversation online than in the real world.

However makeup and glasses, for example, will change her appearance a bit.

For this reason, I strongly suggest that you get her number so you can text her.

Is it too soon to touch her on a first date?

Well, it all comes down to what you mean by touching, right?

If you talk about holding hands or giving her a hug, it might be okay with her at the end of the date.

Try to give her a slight hand-touch while you gaze romantically in her eyes.

I write gaze, don’t stare intensely at her!

That will freak her out! Period.

You have to trust your gut when it comes to touching.

Gut and culture will tell you if it’s appropriate or not.

Your culture will set the framework, your gut will tell you what to do in the specific situation.

Trust your gut feeling!

What if she doesn’t want to go out on a date with me again?

Asking for the second date is nerve-wracking, to say the least, but instead of wondering: Ask her straight-up.

Get more insights about asking a woman out on a second date.

Honesty is always the best approach and she will, for the most part, tell you if she will go out with you again or not.

What if I screw up? Is everything “lost” and does she never want to see me again?

You’re human! You’re a man! Let’s face it: You’re a natural screw-up!

Everything won’t be lost if you make some minor mistakes.

Trust me!

Women have an amazing ability to forgive you for minor errors. As long as you don’t overstep any boundaries, she will probably forgive you when you screw up.

Go with the flow.

Probably the best advice I can share. It’s hard to describe but every date has a flow or a rhythm.

Just try to relax and be present in the moment.

Do I have butterflies in my stomach? Do I feel anxious?

This is a natural thing, especially if you’re outside of your comfort zone.

First dates are nerve-wracking, to say the least, but they are not a marriage proposal.

You might think so but at least you will know that she’s into you because otherwise she wouldn’t have been accepting going out with you on a date in the first place.

She is attracted to you but remembers to act self-confident because this is one of the things that attracts a woman to a man.

Dating Tips for Men: Some Actionable Tips for You

Before I end this article, I would like to share some actionable tips with you that you can start implementing tonight.

My first tip is to act immediately if you see a woman that you find attractive.

Go straight to her, ask her one simple, no cheezy question and act as if you already know that she won’t turn you down.

To get the most value out of this tip, you might want to read my articles on the best conversation starters as well as what you can do if you lack confidence when approaching beautiful women.

My second tip is to remember to look fresh, be nice and polite, and smell wonderful.

Some girls/women like men with a beard while others resent them.

This tip also includes trying to groom your beard if you have one, for this very reason. It all comes down to her personal preferences and that is a topic that is too vast to cover in a single article on a blog.

The last actionable tip that I would like to share with you is to use the HIT-formula whenever you can because let’s face it:

• Humour will make her laugh and feel good about herself.
• Intrigue will make her curious about you.
• Teasing will make her annoyed but strangely attracted to you.

I really hope that you have enjoyed these dating tips.

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Next article

My next article will be published on Wednesday the 13th of June 2018.

It will discuss how to meet girls.

Have an awesome week,

Rickard