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In this blog post, I will discuss result-oriented dating, what it is and how it will work for you.
First. It is not about getting someone in bed as soon as possible. I will give you an idea of what it is not:
The result I am talking about applies to any state in a relationship, even before you have started dating someone. It is a mindset that you need to have to be successful.
What Exactly Is Result-Oriented Dating?
Result-oriented dating is what I call it. It is about getting results, and to achieve them; you have to take action. If you don’t, you will not succeed when dating. These are the sad facts.
You might have heard the expression “dating is a numbers game,” which is what result-oriented dating is all about. I have previously written about the mindset you need to have to succeed in your dating endeavors.
I will describe an exact method that is a structured way of using membership on dating websites to get some results.
You are free to use it or not. It is, in fact, a method that is more likely to get you a date the more you use it.
If you put time and effort into your profile and photo(s), you want results. Especially if you have paid a membership fee to that dating website, you want to get something for spending your hard-earned cash, am I right?
This is a method that I have used with great success (and many failures), and for this reason, I know that it will work, but only if you take action!
Note: If you are a member of ChristianDatingInternational, you would be recommended to upgrade your membership if you only have a free one.
Every day:
Use your social media presence to link to your profile (You can use a pre-written message that you copy from a text file on your computer. I have done it myself.)
Always write something on social media every day. Show some pieces of your life to spark interest from someone! The truth is that people are connecting with others who like the same thing as they do.
If you want more insights about social media’s impact on your dating life, you can read the old article I wrote about it in September this year (2015).
Send flirts/winks and emails, as many as you like each day, but a minimum of 15-20 is recommended. You might want a “favorite” or “preferred” way of finding people. It might be that the dating site is using it themselves or that you can find a sure way to look for profiles that suit you based on your preferences.
If someone is online at the same time as you are, start chatting with that person directly, don’t wait for a reply on your flirt or your email. A simple “Hello! How are you?” will suffice as the first message; sometimes, I’ve referred to it as an icebreaker. For more examples of icebreakers, you can read my previous article.
The more consistent you are and the more you are doing this, you will get someone you begin chatting with, and hopefully, it will lead to that all-important first date. This is the exact method that I have used on different dating websites, and it has worked better on some and has less effect on others.
Every week:
Make an extra search and list people you would consider contacting if your “preferred search” doesn’t give you new results and you already have got them without success.
Apply the same method as described above; the more time and effort you put into this, the greater your chances of going on a date!
When needed:
Update your profile(s) on the dating site(s) you are a member of.
Add more information and upload new photos where you and some of your friends are having fun but make sure that your main image follows the recommended guidelines I’ve mentioned before.
The Sad Fact Why Most People Are Unsuccessful On Dating Sites
Most people, especially men, are unsuccessful in finding someone online because they are not doing the method described above enough.
They fail to understand that they must put in time and effort and can’t be passive. Love will not knock on their door if they sit on their bottom and aren’t taking action.
They are the ones that will tell you that “online dating doesn’t work,” or “online dating is just a scam,” or so on since they are lonely and miserable people blaming everybody else for their failures.
If you don’t apply some of the methods (preferably all of them) I described above, you will become one of those lonely, miserable men or women I wrote about above.
I won’t lie to you. Many dating websites use fake profiles to look bigger than they are. A specific site (whose name I will not mention) hacked in September is revealed to be one of them.
I honestly don’t think it’s an excellent way to treat your customers. It also decreases the chance of happy customers and recommendations to new singles using that dating website.
Next blog post
My next blog post will be published on December 19th, 2015.
It will be about intercultural, international, or interracial dating. Call it whatever you like.
See you then,
Rickard
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