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In this blog post, I’ll discuss the mindset you need to succeed when dating online. All advice is, of course, as general as it can be since I don’t know you.
First of all, let me ask you: Is there a blueprint for online dating success? The answer to this question is undoubtedly a big YES!
Second of all, I would also like to ask you:
Is there really one way to guarantee you online dating success?
Before I continue: This is one of the longest blog posts I’ve ever written, filled with great dating advice, so take your time!
Without telling you too much about it, I will only say that if you think you will not succeed, I am afraid online dating is not for you. Please read more below…
Online Dating Is Connected To The Real World
Online dating is where most people meet the love of their life in the modern world.
No matter who you are, where you live, or what you do, chances are that you will meet your new love online.
In many countries, especially in the part commonly spoken of as the “Western” civilization, there was a social stigma in the 1990s and the early 2000s for couples who had met online.
Gradually, this stigma has vanished, and today it is socially acceptable to introduce someone and answer the question: “Where did you meet?” with “On an online dating site”.
With that said, I would like to reassure you that you are not alone, awkward, or strange.
These thoughts might have crossed your mind.
I know, I always used to think: How hard can it be to meet a woman/man? Trust me, it can be very hard when you’re looking at the wrong places!
I will tell you straight up:
The reason you haven’t found love so far is that you haven’t built the right dating network.
That’s right — you actually need a network or a very good friend who will introduce you to someone.
Luckily for you, you have made up your mind and are ready to take the plunge. Before you can do this, you need to dip your toes in to see if it’s warm!
You know what, let me write this: You should date and have the time of your life! Do you know why?
Because: You deserve it, you owe it to yourself!
So if you are a bit shy, like I used to be, you need to overcome it first.
It’s okay for both men and women to be shy, but if you want to succeed in adventure and meeting people online, you need to become the best version of yourself ever!
How do you achieve it?
It’s quite simple, actually!
Start talking to people who are the same gender you want to date, but who are already in a committed relationship or even married.
Age doesn’t matter either! Talk about everything that you can possibly talk about.
I was in luck there, since most of the people I work with are women, so it was fairly easy for me to start doing this. Colleagues or even close friends can actually be great for helping you overcome your shyness.
You need to do this before you sign up for a dating site membership. Free or paid doesn’t really matter, since you’ll still be losing the most precious thing of all if you feel insecure: Time!
Time is scarce in the modern world.
For this reason, signing up for an online dating service is probably the most reasonable decision you can ever make in your entire life!
What really changed things around for me was:
- My friends successfully found their new loves on different dating sites. So I thought: If they can do it, why can’t I? You know what? It turned out I could get dates by using everything I had been taught and everything I knew about women. This is the mindset you need!
- Dating is not just a numbers game; it’s also a game of self-confidence. If you lack this for any reason whatsoever, you will be unsuccessful. My blueprint (below) will give you tips on boosting your self-confidence, starting today.
- Online dating is connected to the real world because you are a real person living a real life and hoping to find real love. You will also meet people you’ve never met before. In person, not just on an online dating site! This is important!
The Online Dating Success Blueprint
Did you really think I was going to reveal it here?
If you have read my blog for quite some time now, you’ll know that I am an honest guy who always keeps my word, so the answer will, of course, be: Yes!
If you’re shy, you’ll need to take the steps to overcome it.
I have written a review of an ebook that claims to help you with this, and I have also given you some free tips on getting into the right mindset before you begin dating.
Talking with people is the best way to overcome shyness.
Start with people that you have talked with a lot; the threshold is actually lower, and working your way up to a simple “Hello” to someone you’ve just met, and take it from there.
You know what to do, I’m sure of it!
Write a few lines about yourself that describe who you are, but not everything, and of course, don’t forget to upload a photo or maybe even a video where you introduce yourself.
Then start sending flirts to people who are your best matches!
However, just sitting in front of your computer screen won’t change your life; you need to get out on dates in the real world, too!
You need to be open to all the possibilities dating brings!
This is one of the best pieces of advice that anyone can give you.
It might, however, also be one of the most general ones. What exactly does this mean?
Simple! It means that you should start flirting with anyone who has shown the slightest interest in you, or maybe flirt with someone you think is out of your league.
The only thing that matters is if you can see yourself with that person and if you can think that both of you have a future:
Can you imagine celebrating future holidays with this person?
Even, more importantly, is this question, though: Can you see the two of you starting a family together and raising kids together?
When you are seeing someone, make sure you don’t force or rush things. If you do, neither one of you will feel good about yourself.
Dating shouldn’t be rushed!
You shouldn’t rush things; take it a bit slow and keep the dates at a pace that both you and your date feel comfortable with.
Sometimes your dating might go very fast, and sometimes very slowly.
Let things be the way they are! As long as you are comfortable with the pace, don’t rush it!
When everything feels right for you, ask about how your date feels.
Either you might be looking for something completely different, or you might find that you share the same goals, in which case you should continue dating.
When I write this, I don’t necessarily mean that both of you feel hopelessly in love with each other and can’t imagine living a minute more without the other; it can actually work the other way.
A word of advice as well as of caution:
Dating won’t make you new friends!
If you decide to go your separate ways, so be it!
You won’t probably hear from that person ever again!
However, sometimes it will evolve into a different kind of relationship, and if it does, you should be happy about it!
Dating is exciting!
It is OK to feel some tension and be a bit nervous when you’re dating, and especially on first dates!
It is not bad to talk with your date about everything; this is actually what will build a relationship that lasts more than a few dates, maybe it will last for the rest of your life!
This is my blueprint! Now that you’ve spent a lot of time reading it, let’s take some action and do it!
Implementing what you have just read is the key to success.
Here is a great place to start, or at least that’s what I have been told.
More Articles About Dating in the Digital Age
These articles might also be beneficial to you if you’re considering dating in the digital age:
Online Dating Secrets: 3 Ways Of Dating
Online Dating Secrets Revealed: Boosting Your Online Dating Profile in 5 Easy Steps
Online Dating: Where Are You Dating?
Your Dating Profile Is Important
The Text Chat Function Is Very Important For All Members
If you want to know some weird facts about dating that you can use to create laughter or mesmerize her with your knowledge about this topic, that article might help you achieve just that.
To your success,
Rickard
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