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Today, I will reveal the brutal truth about why dating sites don’t work or do they?
Dating sites do work for some people.
For others, they don’t work, no matter what they do.
Today, I will reveal a simple reason why it doesn’t work for some singles, and it works perfectly fine for others.
One thing is for sure: There is no social stigma to confess to your friends and family that you met your husband or wife on a dating website as it was a couple of years ago.
I do happen to know a couple of things that makes or breaks your chances on any dating site or app out there.
I will reveal everything to you, for FREE, below…
The first thing I want to bring to your attention is your profile.
It still matters and is one of the two key factors that will decide whether you will find your life-long spouse on a dating website or not.
To succeed, you need:
- A good username, preferably one that starts with a letter at the beginning of the alphabet.
- A recent picture of yourself. There are different guidelines for men and women that you must follow in order to succeed.
- Some text where you describe yourself and who you are looking for. Don’t just settle for the dummy text “If you want to find out more about me, please contact me” because no one will.
Just the fact that you have taken some time filling out and completed the entire form is a sign to others that you take this seriously.
The second thing is how active you are on the dating site.
Remember that dating is a marathon and not a sprint.
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Most dating sites have an algorithm that rewards active users and punishes the less active users.
Just 15 minutes a day, contacting other singles, and being active on the dating site will increase your chances to get a higher ranking in the search results.
The third thing and this is a bonus, is that you need to take action.
It helps your ranking on the site as an active member and helps you stay active and update your profile now and then, maybe uploading a new photo of yourself.
Here is an article about how you can boost your dating profile in three easy steps right now.
But to be quite frank and straight to the point, I have to acknowledge…
The most important reason why dating sites don’t work is, however, something very different.
There is literally only one person you can blame for this.
The one thing that really lowers your chances to succeed on any dating site is yourself.
Maybe you lack self-confidence, but more often, it comes down to this:
You don’t really believe in the process, and for this reason, you don’t put in the work that is necessary to succeed.
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Because if you did, you would have found someone to love.
Dating sites are mostly not trying to scam you, but dating takes a lot of time, and most people don’t think it will.
It doesn’t matter if you’re a man or a woman.
The entire process is basically the same, but most men won’t take any risks but stay in their comfort zone and blame others for their failure.
I wrote an article a while back that reveals why it is important to get out of your comfort zone to succeed online dating.
The best advice that I can give anyone who tried online dating is:
Don’t blame others for failing. Blame yourself because you are the reason why you have failed.
Some people give up way too easily, right?
They try one thing, and then they try the next instead of sticking to one thing that will work if you allow time to work its magic.
All they are really doing is chasing a dream.
They are not putting in the work necessary to succeed and blame others when they fail, jumping from one shiny object to the next.
There are bad things about dating sites too.
But before I jump into this, I will tell you that it is not always your own fault that you are failing because sometimes you meet bad people on dating sites just as you would do in real life.
Dating sites are mirroring society in this way.
You can meet people who really resonate with you, and if you are in bad luck, you may start talking to someone who wants to hurt you.
Why Dating Sites Are Bad
Dating sites are bad too.
It might sound odd that I am openly acknowledging this fact, but they are bad for your self-esteem and self-worth.
Remember that this is a calculated risk that you are taking.
You are, after all, subjecting yourself to other people’s bias judgment about your looks and your personality.
Some dating sites are bad because they attract scammers.
This is not a problem that is isolated to free dating sites, also paid dating sites are suffering from these fraudsters.
As well as social media, I might add.
Back in 2018, I was contacted by a scammer on one of the social media sites, but I noticed that something didn’t feel right in my gut, and the way this person acted also raised suspicion in me.
If someone acts suspicious, it should raise all the red flags in you.
These criminals can be found everywhere, and I decided to expose how scammers are working to help men and women avoid these scams.
However, the main reason why dating sites are bad is because of your own limiting beliefs.
It is you who don’t believe in the processor that this thing will work.
This lowers your expectations and will eventually set you up for failure rather than success.
If you don’t believe that something will work, it won’t work for you.
It is really as simple as that.
Now, it is time to dive right into the third and last question, which is, of course, whether dating sites are safe or not.
Are Dating Sites Safe?
To answer whether dating sites are safe or not, I need to be very frank with you.
From a security perspective, most of them are.
Most dating sites, even free ones, are using many different methods to make your online dating experience as safe as humanly possible.
But, of course, they can’t guarantee your safety 100% of the time.
They are also doing their best to protect your privacy and credit card information.
However, most of them can’t protect you from fake profiles.
This really comes down to your own knowledge and judgment, but my tips are to trust your gut feeling about these things.
Basically, if someone or something feels too good to be true, it often is.
This is my personal rule of thumb that I always apply in all interactions with human beings, both online and offline.
The best filter in the world is your gut feeling.
Always trust it and never start to second guess your gut feeling because this is your body’s way of telling you that something doesn’t feel alright with a person.
Not all dating sites are bad, however.
A few out there really work, some of which require you to pay a monthly subscription, and others that are completely free.
This is one that I am personally recommending to you.
Next Article
My next article will be published on the 18th of March 2019.
It will discuss how dating a narcissist will change you.
Have a great day,
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