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Introduction
In this blog post, I will discuss the most dreadful place for singles to be in after going out on a first date, why it is nothing to be afraid of, how you can leave it and how you might avoid getting into the “friend zone” in the first place.
If you want to read more about it, continue to read below…
How To Avoid The Friend Zone
If you have been on a first date with someone and you talk with that person after the date you might find out that you have been placed in the dreadful “friend zone”.
It is the place no one who has dated someone with romantic interest wants to be placed in, but it still happens to us.
So why is it like this?
First of all, it is a defence mechanism in the human mind that all humans have.
It’s a fundamental mechanism we humans have that scientists have named the “fight or flight”-response and you might have heard about it.
If not, it is a theory that tries to explain the reason why we humans, as well as animals when faced with danger, either flees or fight for our lives.
The friend zone is an aspect of the behaviour to flee from a dangerous position.
It might sound strange, but this is why so many singles get stuck in the so-called friend zone.
You will be placed there if your date isn’t really sure about you because it’s “playing it safe” for that person.
What I do mean by that is that they aren’t one hundred per cent sure that you are “the one” so they want to be safe and get to know you better.
I’ve been placed there myself many times, but I do know how to get out of it nowadays, and I am happy to share my knowledge with you.
It is nothing you should be afraid of since it means that the person you have been out on a date with actually likes you but wants to take things slowly and give your relationship the time to develop.
If you want things to develop, take the initiative and ask that person out for a second date but without letting them know.
Just do it in a similar way that you did when you’ve asked her out the first time (if you read my previous post you’ll know that I used a man asking a woman out on a date as an example).
Of course, you can also say to the person that you don’t want to be friends, but then you will also risk losing a potential future partner.
You have to feel what is the right thing to do for you when the opportunity appears that is something no one but you can decide.
My advice is to keep talking and see how things are developing, maybe you have just met a new friend or maybe you have met your love.
Time will tell that is for sure.
The most important thing if you are following this strategy is to keep the communication going on between the two of you.
How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone
The best practice is, of course, to never to get into that zone.
Asking her out (my example once again) directly on the first date for a second one and not giving her too much time to think or talk with her friends might be a good strategy.
Ask to meet her later that day or the following day.
For some people, this strategy is the best way to date, and for others, it is a good strategy to let things develop and give the relationship time to mature.
You have to decide which strategy you will follow and then try it out.
It might work, or it might not work, many different factors will make either strategy to work such as your own skills, your intention, your dates intention and other factors that I don’t mention since this article would be even longer.
Next blog post
My next blog post will be published on the 30th of January 2016.
It will be about how social media and dating can be of mutual benefit for you.
See you then,
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