The Nice Guy Trap

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Introduction

In this blog post, I will write about what I like to call “the nice guy trap”.

It doesn’t matter who you are looking for or who you might fall in love with eventually since this is something most people have the wrong idea about.

This is what many men but also women have experienced when they are dating, and other singles have turned them down because they are too nice so that the other person thinks they are trying to fool them.

It doesn’t matter if you’re dating in real life or online; the experience is the same.

I will use my own personal experience, and if you had any similar experience, you are more than welcome to write your comments after the end of this short article.

We Are Told To Be And Treat Our Dates Nicely

When we’re brought up, we are always taught that we should treat each other’s nicely and not behave badly, so we hurt other people, no matter if it’s other boys or girls.

Being nice on a date is, of course, something you should do, which I have written many times before on this blog.

For this reason, I would like to state that being a nice guy isn’t necessarily falling into the “trap” that I am writing about here.

It’s actually quite the opposite, but you have to be a nice guy the “right” way. Otherwise, you are in the risk falling into the so-called “trap”.

Being nice the right way is just another way to say that if you are a man, women suppose that you should be in charge of things, you should find the courage and be the guy that can fix things.

This is what most women want you to do but actually never tells you to do.

This is one of the things that they think you should “know”.

Women are doing these kinds of “tests” because they are looking for different personality traits and how you behave so they can find out if you are the right match for them or if they have to look for someone new.

Being The Nice Guy Without Falling Into “The Nice Guy Trap”

Now I will give you some great advice about how you should avoid the trap but still being a nice guy.

No matter if you are doing a text- or video chat or even if you are calling her (or is she is calling you) she wants you to show some initiatives and be the man in charge, the man she actually wants you to be.

So, as I have been giving away at the beginning of this article, I will share some of my own experiences too.

Whenever I text chat with a woman I always begin by asking them nicely and not so personal questions.

Just talking about things like they are my friends.

Of course, I will also ask them things I would never ask my friends if I’m interested in them.

This is conduct that I have found to be more successful than all the other methods and approaches that I have tried and perfected over the years.

I always text them twice a day.

First, when I got up and then when I returned after my work.

Sometimes girls/women are just saying or texting “let’s be friends, ok?” to me.

I always analyze it when it happens.

The sad fact is that when I have done that it all boils down to one simple fact: I haven’t been fully committed and haven’t taken enough actions.

I have actually once tried this deliberately when I found out some facts about her that I didn’t like and it also made me think that the girl wasn’t the right one for me.

This might seem a bit harsh, but I am just honest.

It also cleared up a lot of things for me, especially what I want in a woman and if you don’t know that you will only be “dating in the dark”.

Next blog post

My next blog post will be published tomorrow.

It will be discussing the bad guy trap.

Until then,

Rickard